I’m not sure it’s possible for me to disagree more strongly with your claim that those who ask for pronouns do so to feel powerful or put others on the defense. Rather, it has been my experience that they’re sincerely attempting to be welcoming and inclusive, because that’s what they’ve been told is the function and purpose of requests for a person’s gender pronouns. There seems to be very little critical thinking about the actual experience and outcomes of asking and being asked for “one’s pronouns” in group community or workplace settings. That is the focus of my piece.

Also, as I’ve asserted in replies to other responses, the intentions of the requestor are irrelevant. The question still often occurs in contexts of unequal power relations and require those asked to either comply, lie, or refuse to respond (with potentially negative consequences). Ill intent is not necessary for unequal outcomes to result.

The rest of your comment seems to take issue with respecting others’ preferred form of address in social interactions. That just seems like basic human decency to me… but you do you.

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