Your response fully supports my argument: those who are asked to provide their gender pronouns get to “cope with it.” The burden of navigating requests for gender pronouns is placed on those who are asked, and that asking is represented as welcoming and exclusionary. The very act of asking encumbers those asked to comply, lie, or refuse, with potentially negative consequences depending on context. If there was no power imbalance, there’d be nothing to “cope with,” yes?

As I’ve stated in other responses to my story (and as Rachel Levin explains in her op-ed I cite) there are other ways this information can be elicited if it is, indeed, necessary.