Your story reminded me of the concept of bisexual erasure: when bi people are with different gender partners, they’re assumed to be straight. When they’re with same-gender partners, they’re assumed to be gay. No partnering makes their sexual orientation ‘visible’ so they’re constantly having to ‘come out’ in order to keep from being ‘erased.’ That burden is never lifted for them. But please don’t feel it’s your obligation to educate the world. If you have the time, energy, and generosity, it can feel good. But you’re also entitled to not have to do that. Expectations that we educate on demand can be oppression in the guise of good will…

Professional homosexual. Professor. Writer. Scholar. Activist. Husband.

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